Secret Eating

Secret eating refers to consuming food in private or hiding the fact that you’re eating. This might mean eating when no one is around, hiding food wrappers, or pretending you haven’t eaten certain things. It often involves guilt, shame, or embarrassment.

While occasional private eating is not necessarily harmful, consistent secret eating can signal emotional distress, appetite dysregulation, or a strained relationship with food.

You might relate to this if:

• You eat when no one else is watching, even if you’re not hungry
• You hide food in odd places for secret consumption such as the car or bedroom
• You hide food wrappers, receipts, or packaging
• You eat differently in front of others than you do when alone
• You feel guilt or shame after eating
• You eat quickly or mindlessly, often out of emotional urgency
• You worry about being judged for what or how much you eat

You use eating as a way to deal with emotional stress

Secret eating usually isn’t about hunger. It’s often a response to deeper emotional or psychological triggers.

Emotional Causes

• Shame or guilt related to food, weight, or body image
  
• Fear of judgment from others
  
• Using food to cope with stress, loneliness, or emotional pain
  

Behavioural Patterns

• Restrictive dieting during the day followed by overeating in private
  
• Eating for comfort or distraction, but only when alone
  
• Habitual secrecy from childhood or past criticism about eating

Secret eating can impact both physical and emotional wellbeing:

• Weight gain from excessive, unregulated eating
• Heightened risk of binge eating or disordered eating patterns
• Increased feelings of isolation, shame, or low self-esteem
• Disconnection from natural hunger and fullness cues

These effects often reinforce the cycle: secrecy → guilt → more eating → more secrecy which can make it feel hard to break.

Practical Strategies

• Keep a food and mood journal: Track not just what you eat, but how you feel before and after
• Practice self-compassion: Remind yourself that secret eating is a behaviour, not a character flaw
• Shift to mindful eating: Eat slowly, without distraction, and tune into your body’s signals
• Challenge food rules: Rigid “good/bad” food beliefs often drive secrecy and guilt
• Open up: Talking to a trusted person or healthcare professional can break the cycle of secrecy
• Use the distraction technique: Every time you feel the urge to eat, do something else, like taking a walk or speaking to a loved one. If you still feel the urge to eat after this then you can without judgement.
• Set Times: Set regular meal and snack times and use distraction techniques for when you are tempted to eat outside of these times.

Secret eating is more common than people think and is often linked to emotion, shame, or a feeling of being “off-track.” Recognising that this behaviour is a sign of struggle, not failure, is the first step toward changing it.

Dr Jackir Hussain is a GP who has been a doctor for 14 years after obtaining his medical degree from the University of Manchester, England. He has worked across a range of primary care settings and has special interests in weight management and telemedicine.

Dr Abby Hyams completed her medical training in Bristol and has been a GP for 19 years, spending many of those as a partner in an NHS practice in Hemel Hempstead. She has a particular passion for supporting patients with weight loss and promoting positive behaviour change, helping individuals build sustainable habits that improve their long-term health and wellbeing.

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